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Feb. 21st, 2012

bigsky
So, I am putting this here 1) Because I doubt terribly many people are still reading here as I hardly ever post and 2) because the majority of my Facebook friends don't need to start crying again.

Yesterday, I buried one of my best friends who I have known since I started junior high. Our lockers were right next to each other for 4 years in high school. Most of my best, funniest and favorite stories from that time in my life feature her prominently. She was 36. She had 4 children 16, 10, 6 and 5.

Her son who just turned 5, is my son's best friend. They were on the same t-ball team this summer, they are in the same pre-K class. For the entire school year, until a few weeks ago when I started back to work, I gave her son a ride to and from school every day to make it easier for her to go back to school to become a nurse. Since I started work, Max's dad has been helping out in the same way. Her son's only request for his 5th birthday party was that he and Max(my little guy) get to go to a local play place/arcade together for the day. So that was what we did. I remember thinking, and I am pretty sure I said that the two of us would probably be doing this for years to come-- watching our two boys together as they played sports and went through school together. I was looking forward to it.

But Friday, on her way to nursing school, she swerved to miss a deer and her van went off the road. She was not wearing her seat belt.

And now I don't get to watch our boys grow up together WITH her. But I feel like I should do it FOR her. And for her little boy who now has no mommy to watch him grow up.

Comments

( 13 comments )
hermette
Feb. 22nd, 2012 02:37 am (UTC)
oh honey, i'm so sorry for your loss.
ladytory
Feb. 23rd, 2012 04:11 am (UTC)
Thanks, dear.
miz_tith
Feb. 22nd, 2012 04:29 am (UTC)
We are here for you, however we can help. We love you hun, and know you will be there for everyone. So whatever we can do for you, just let us know
ladytory
Feb. 23rd, 2012 04:12 am (UTC)
Thanks sweetie, I know you are, and I appreciate that so so much!
aggiebell90
Feb. 22nd, 2012 04:30 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss, and especially for her family. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

*hugs*
ladytory
Feb. 23rd, 2012 04:13 am (UTC)
Thank you. Your prayers are greatly appreciated!
harrysmom
Feb. 22nd, 2012 04:46 am (UTC)
That is terrible!
*hugs*
ladytory
Feb. 23rd, 2012 04:14 am (UTC)
Thanks, I need all the hugs I can get right now.
jandjsalmon
Feb. 22nd, 2012 05:06 am (UTC)
Oh, Tory. I'm SO sorry. I just read that to Jay too and we're both crying. It's just so heartbreaking. *hugs you tight*
ladytory
Feb. 23rd, 2012 04:18 am (UTC)
Thanks for the hugs, definitely need 'em.
melusinahp
Feb. 22nd, 2012 07:24 am (UTC)
Oh god, I'm so, so sorry. My heart hurts for you. I lost my oldest best friend a couple years ago and it's so hard. Love to you, Tory. Love to her family.
ladytory
Feb. 23rd, 2012 04:18 am (UTC)
Thank you, dear, very much appreciated.
natertatersmom
Feb. 23rd, 2012 05:59 pm (UTC)
Oh god Tori...Oh I am so sorry. Reading this is like a kick in the stomach and I wish I was there to give you massive hugs.

Unfair, unfair, unfair. Please accept my sorrow with yours....

My prayers for her precious children and for your heart.
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